PARENTING A CHILD-WITH-AUTISMParenting a child-with-autism can take alot out of a person. I know...I am the mom of a son who has the diagnosis. One of the best things that we can do to help our kids is to make sure that we take care of ourselves. So many times we do not take care of ourselves and that can easily reflect in our parenting skills. I think one of the best advice I can give you is to take care of yourself. Several years ago, I had a breakdown. My load was way to heavy for me to bear. From that point on, I have learned to give myself permission to do something for myself every week. Every Sunday afternoon is mine! We go to church on Sunday mornings and then out to lunch as a family with grandma and grandpa. When we return home, I change my clothes and the next three to four hours are mine to do as I please! My husband watches the children. So what do I do? I window shop, I visit with a girlfriend, I look at model homes, I go to the library or take in a movie. I may go to a bookstore or run an errand alone...it doesn't really matter what I do because I am recharging my batteries! The point is, I don't have to help anyone do anything! I wrote much of my book on Sunday afternoons. Our load is heavy and it is a seven day a week job. Parenting a child-with-autism is not easy. We get exhausted. It is easy to stop thinking straight and it is easy to cry when I am tired! This does not help our kids when we get ourselves into this kind of place. I also take Wednesday nights and go to a Bible study. I need to stay in the word of God. I need to learn God's perspective for my life. I need the fellowship with girlfriends. Have I always taken Sunday afternoons and Wednesday nights to recharge my batteries? Not by a long shot! But after five years of racing against a clock to help our son...I burned out. I hated how everything about my life had changed. Never had I worked so hard for such little results! And yes, it took some convincing to have my husband step up to the plate! But he did step up! During the week, my research often leads me to bio medical treatments for our son. It is really on Sundays and Wednesdays that I focus on the new things that God is telling me about being mom to our son. So Sundays and Wednesdays are my built in respite times. I know that there are many moms and dads who do not have a spouse, close family members or great friends to give them the respite that they need. You must find a person to help give you a break. If you do not, you run a high risk of breaking down. And let me tell you...that is just not all that it is cracked up to be! Where there is a will...you will find a way. Parenting a child-with-autism is just not easy. Taking time for ourselves is not a luxury. Parenting a child-with-autism can be tough. It is a necessity. The first chapter in my book will tell you a little bit about my story. The rest of the book is tools for you to help yourself. Tools to help you be the best parent you can be for your child. Tools to make you stronger, wiser and happier. You don't need to hear one more story from another mom. I believe what you need is tools to help you in YOUR life. That is why I share with you some of the things that I have learned on my journey in my book Finding God In Autism. You have my word...This book was written to help you!
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